DPL: more validation of MessageSet::header / payload replacement

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[alibuild]

Error while checking build/O2/fullCI_slc9 for ed42a58 at 2026-03-27 04:16:

## sw/BUILD/O2Physics-latest/log
c++: fatal error: Killed signal terminated program cc1plus
c++: fatal error: Killed signal terminated program cc1plus
ninja: build stopped: subcommand failed.

Full log here.